måndag 23 maj 2011

JANE'S ADIRONDACK KEEPSAKES.......

               


 




 


                    My sister Jane really treasured all of the mementos and keepsakes that she was able to hold on to, from our Mother's family in the Adirondacks.  She displayed them all over her home with love and pride.  I tried to keep as many as I possibly could, because I know that Jane would want it that way. I basically cleaned up and closed Jane's home alone after she passed away on January 25th of this year.  It was during all of the snowstorms and blizzards that we experienced, which only made commuting so much more difficult. Several of my close friends and co-workers offered to help, but I just did not want anyone else going through my sisters personal things. You can imagine that her home was in severe disarray after her illness left her incapable of doing even simple things for many months before we lost her. .....  Jane, I am so sorry for what you went through, it still hurts so bad to think about it.  I did what I could, that's all I can remember to comfort me over your loss.......
                   I kept all of the Adirondack quilts that our great-grandmother and her sisters used to make.  Her sisters names were Belle-Marie, Florence, Maude, and Maigret.  Their cousin and dear friend Merle, used to help make the quilts too. All of the quilts must be over 70 years old.  I have also included some of the Adirondack glass-ware that Jane loved so much.  The rose quartz cocktail glasses are at least 100 years old, they were a wedding gift of our great-grandmother Lilaeus.  The blue vase was a gift from our Mother Lois to her grandmother Lilaeus when she was only 15 years old.  We always used it exclusively for Lilacs, during the short season that they are in bloom.  The small blue sugar and creamer are also from our great-grandmother, and so are at least 60 years old. The plate that is hanging behind the glass-ware in the pictures, was our great-grandmothers favorite pie plate, and her pies and cakes were legendary.  I have also included Jane's favorite picture of our summer cottage in the Adirondacks.  Jane had it enlarged and framed. They were hard-working, humble and wonderful people.  They were all farmers and woodsman.  Everything was home-made with love and care.  I am keeping all of their personal things in honour of their memory and for my beautiful sister Jane.



 


                            Above are the two different patterns of quilts that they seemed to use the most.  I remember them as a very young boy "up the lake".  I am very proud of my Mother's family, the "Adirondackers", and I am very grateful that my sister Jane took such good and loving care of all of these mementos.



              
                     I had never really looked to closely at the quilt patterns before, I was too busy fishing, hiking and bird-watching.  The pattern below really caught my eye, it is of dandelion flower and seed heads!  If you look up close,  you can many unusual and interesting patterns in the quilts.


             
                    

                   Jane framed this picture below of the cottage in the Adirondacks too.  I still remember the day that I took this picture, I must have been only about 17 years old at the time.  It is still one of my favorites. 



             
                                 Thank you for reading our post today.  Love and Light to you.

onsdag 18 maj 2011

I'M A TRAVELING MAN......



                               It was raining last night, so although I had an invitation to got to a CD launch party, I decided to stay home.  I started to organize my small library of books, and began finding these countless ticket stubs stuck in books, coat and suit pockets etc.  They are remnants of my time commuting to care for my dear sister Jane, who was living in Bayonne.  Sometimes I felt like I should have gone more (we all do after we lose a loved one), but after finding over 70 ticket stubs all around my home, I realized that I had definitley "gone the distance" for my lovely sister Jane......and I would do it a hundred times again if I could. I can not bring myself to throw these tickets away right now, although I know that I should. I am so glad that I did what I did for my sister.  What a feeling of peace it is, knowing that you did all that you could for the ones that you love, and that you made that peace with them and comforted them with only affection and kindness in their final days.

                            Thank you for reading our post today.  Love and light to you.

tisdag 17 maj 2011

FORT MYERS BEACH FLA.......





                          I found some pictures of Fort Myers Beach Florida, and had an incredible series of flashbacks.  It is amazing how we humans can forget about significant moments in our lives as we trod along.  I completely forgot about the time that our brother Jimmy and I were sent to Fort Myers Florida, so that Jane did not have to make the two day car trip back up north alone.  Jane had been living there with her best friend Ginny.  I do not believe that Jane wanted to come back, and maybe if she had stayed there with Ginny, her life would have turned out better.  Ginny was beautiful, warm and very down to earth.  I had known her since I was a kid through Jane. The song "Miracles" by Jefferson Starship, always reminds me of Ginny. It was the first time that Jimmy and I ever flew in an airplane and the first time that we had ever been to Florida.  It was all exciting for us.  The two days that we were supposed to stay, turned into at least three weeks!  Ginny was great, she was working full time, but we still spent alot of the days together.  They had a beautiful small beach house within walking distance from the ocean and a 24 hour 7-11.  I loved the cherry ice drinks, candy bars and giant sodas, so I would go to the 7-11 several times a day.  We ate pizza, macaroni and cheese and hot dogs every day.  The beach was amazing to me,  as I had never been to a "tropical" place before.  I saw coconut palms, papaya and citrus trees for the first time in my life.  I enjoyed every minute of this journey, and it was also the first time that I was ever so far away from home.   I was also amazed at the  brown pelicans and many other types of birds that I had never seen before too.  We went to a drive in one night to watch horror movies, and it was eerie as the drive-in was surrounded by a mangrove swamp.  I don't remember what films we saw,  but I remember the sights and sounds of that night.  I remember getting out of the little red Toyota to get soda and some snacks.  The area was muddy and misty, and you could hear the soundtrack echoing in the background.  The sounds coming from the swamp were loud too, very haunting.
         Jane and Ginny were both exceptionally beautiful, and quite a sight in their bikinis. I can still remember how wonderful it was to wake up in that little beach house, and then go for a swim in the warm clear ocean.  There was always music playing in the beach house, mostly Jefferson Airplane, Montrose, Bowie, Cat and Joni.  We had a great time in Fort Myers Beach, Jane and Ginny had made many friends down there,  and they took us to Sanibel Island twice, where the water and the beach were incredibly beautiful. The beach was empty and we had it all to ourselves.  Jimmy and I  also  attempted to drive across Alligator alley one day when we were alone, and we did see plenty of alligators (for the first time), herons, egrets, spoonbills, wood storks, lizards and everything else imaginable in the Everglades.  We almost made it to the east coast, but turned around as we didn't want to drive the alley by night.  We did not want to leave Florida,  but our mother insisted we come back after 3 weeks.  It must have been very hard for Ginny to see Jane go, and I know that Jane did not want to leave. They had such a peaceful and mellow existence there,  they really were like two sisters, and true kindred spirits.
         The drive back was an adventure. We took 75 north through west central Florida to Atlanta, then up through Tennessee to route 81.  We saw the real Deep, Deep South.  Huge white mansions surrounded by enormous evergreen magnolia trees and live oaks draped in Spanish moss (which I saw for the first time too).  I had always been a huge nature lover, and I would often spend hours up in the forest and power lines around our home, bird-watching, rock collecting, identifying plants and whatever else imaginable to do with nature.  I made Jane stop at a "stuckys" (?) store, as there were huge amounts of Spanish moss hanging from some low trees behind it.  I collected several handfuls of the Spanish moss, and put them into a plastic bag with some water. ( I attempted to grow them back upstate after we got home.  I put them on a wooden clothes hanger in a white pine in our backyard, but they only lived until the autumn).  The drive back also saw many run down shacks, cotton and tobacco fields and  often miles and miles of nothing.  We finally approached Highway 81 in Tennessee, but at the last minute we decided to take the Blue Ridge Parkway instead, as Jane had driven it before and said that it was beautiful.  It was truly magnificent.  We arrived on it at night with a full moon, and the clouds actually "rested" on the highway.  We got out of the car to try and touch the clouds, as there were many small wisps of the white vapor scattered all over the roadside. We could not all sleep in the little red Toyota, so we spent the night in a tiny motel in Roanoke Virginia.  The next day we had grits and eggs and continued on our trip. We drank endless bottles of diet Pepsi and mountain dew, and ate lots of potato chips and candy on that trip, which is probably why we had almost no money left by the time we arrived home.  I will always remember that time with Jane, Jimmy and Ginny with very special and fond memories.  Its hard to believe that Jane and Jimmy are both gone now,  it is very very sad.  I am so happy that Ginny is still here,  looking lovely and has a good life.  I know that Jane loved her very much, and so did we.  Thank you for reading our post today.  Love and light to you.







måndag 9 maj 2011

HOME MADE DECOR......

                                

These are just a few of the amazing things that my sister Jane created for her home.  Jane took a giant piece of driftwood from the Adirondacks , treated it and made it into a wall centerpiece to great effect. Below is one of the old hutches that Jane acquired. The hutch was from the 1950's and rusted.  Jane took it, sanded it, polished it and painted it a beautiful color combination of powder blue, cream and very light yellow. Jane did this with many antiques, and they always turned out looking brand new, and yet retro at the same time.  I wish that I had taken more photos of Jane's home decorating, but I guess I'm lucky that I took the few that I did.  Jane could have been a wonderful interior designer, ( she was one,  in her own home).  Jane had amassed a huge collection of valuable antiques over the years in Bayonne, and she had a sharp eye for what was worth keeping or not.  I have kept many of them, in her memory.  Thank you for reading our post today.  Love and Light to you

lördag 7 maj 2011

JANE......MOTHERS DAY.....



                              Mothers day must have been a very hard day for my sister Jane. I have already written about the many reasons why it would be such a sad day for Jane in this tribute to my sister, and I will not be repeating them.  I must however state that it was also a very diificult day for my sister because of our history with our Mother, who had "wronged" Jane in many ways.  I only want to celebrate my sister Jane today.  Jane was also often Jimmy and my "real" mother.  Jane would always cook for us, and even come to our apartment and clean it for us.  When Jane was stuck in her horrible marriage in a house with no heating oil or hot water,  our brother Jimmy would go over with oil that he bought with our last dime to give to Jane, so that she and her children wouldn't freeze in their house.  But certain individuals forget about that.  I don't, but Jimmy and I would do anything to help our sister if we could.  When Jane finally had to get a kerosene heater, we would always fill it for them, so they could survive the harsh winters there.  Jane went through hell to keep her children together and healthy.  She did an incredible job, despite the unending abuse and neglect that she endured.  Certain individuals forget that, (oh I mean flat out deny it),  but I don't.  Jane was always loving and affectionate to me,  like a mother,  and I am still very grateful for that.  Our Mother was often "missing" and "unavailable" as I stated before.  She was always off in her own world, deep in an unbelievable state of denial and codependent addiction with her alcoholic "companion" Bob, and "not there" for us.  I know that as a solid fact, from our history together and from all of our endless and intense conversations that we had, especially over the last 6 months of my sister's short life, in the hospital and at Jane's home.  Some people would criticize me harshly for my comments about our parents, but the truth always comes out, and I am not about to hide or keep anybody else's dirt or secrets anymore. I will be discussing our "father" in a post soon.  It needs to be said...... for me,  but most importantly for my sister Jane.  Happy Mothers Day to my beautiful sister-mother Jane, I will not forget you.  I miss you and love you very much. I know that Jane would want her story to be told, not only as the way that I saw it, but also the way that we both lived it.  Thank you for reading our post today.  Love and Light to you